Welcome to BB and congrats on little Lucia! A close friend of mine had a baby with a really large nuchal fold, I think it was around 6 mm also. They didn't tell her the risks associated with this measurement, even when the amnio showed no downs. I know she found great support in local networks like SIDS kids and other groups that support parents with sick little ones.

Having watched my friend struggle with the illness of her baby, I have gained a small understanding of how hard it must be, and I know that there is not much anyone can say that makes it better. For my girlfriend at least, meeting and sharing with others that have been through a similar thing helped her accept her grief and allowed her to talk about all the emotions she was feeling.

good luck hun *hugs*