What awful stories, please thank your gran so much for sharing.

I have spoken to my gran about her births. She had four homebirths because she was not high risk, and therefore not allowed to deliver in hospital. She had a PPH after her first baby and was terrified each birth that she would die at home but they would not let her have a room in hospital. It's a bit of a shame because if she had gone to hospital it would have been the big new one that was just built, which is where my twins were born 50 years later . Her fourth child was in distress during birth but (in her words) the midwife just ignored it and her baby was deprived of oxygen and has suffered lifelong problems as a result. She is very opposed to homebirth and midwives as a result, and is not overjoyed on my career choice.

She never wanted to breastfeed, and the midwives said that formula was probably better for them anyway so she just did that.