I have to appologise to my dear husband When he originally posted this I did get quite upset, due to the fact that IMO its very rose coloured. But I guess thats why its the male perspective LOL! Paris' labour was quite easy to me apart from the exhaustion like marc said, but the c/s for me was not as pleasant. I was expecting to have paris placed on my chest and being able to cuddle her (didn't happen). From what I remember Paris was either held by marc or a staff member over me (my arms had drips and things in them) and I was able to touch but not hold (which I dearly wanted to) and it lasted for only a few minutes before they were rushed off to do checks on paris and I was rushed off to recovery. This was the most horrible part for me, if I could change anything I would change this. I was in recovery for about an hour (see how our stories differ LOL) surrounded by moaning women who had probably just come out of some serious operations (most were older so I don't think they were c/s or labour related). The nurses in there were wandering around acting as though we didn't exist talking about their weekends and how "trashed" they got. Most of the women were quite out of it, I however wasn't so I found this quite distressing. Here I was a new mother stuck in a room with my baby and my husband not by my side. I felt like recovery had cheapened the experience and since speaking to one of my gf's I know that some hospitals do not believe in seperating families during recovery (this is something I am going to ask about when chosing a hospital second time around). I guess you could say I felt ripped off by the fact that paris' first moments were not spent with the person who carried her for 9 mths and this distressed me quite alot. Even now nearly 3 yrs later it upsets me. But on the opposite side, I am greatful that marc got to experience what alot of dads usually don't, he was the one who had those first prescious moments with her and thats beautiful. And I would rather that then have him by my side whilst she was off in a nursery somewhere. Its funny I know some women who didn't mind the C/S experience at all but ALOT felt the same way I did and I really don't understand why if its so distressing for the mother to be seperated why they still do it when I know it is possible (as they do it in some hospitals) for everyone to be together.
Thank you Marc for posting, and sorry for my original reaction I guess its still something I find hard to deal with 8-[
Regardless of her birth, she's still the apple of my eye and if it meant an hour without her to save her life and/or mine I wouldn't change it for the world.
When he originally posted this I did get quite upset, due to the fact that IMO its very rose coloured. But I guess thats why its the male perspective LOL! Paris' labour was quite easy to me apart from the exhaustion like marc said, but the c/s for me was not as pleasant. I was expecting to have paris placed on my chest and being able to cuddle her (didn't happen). From what I remember Paris was either held by marc or a staff member over me (my arms had drips and things in them) and I was able to touch but not hold (which I dearly wanted to) and it lasted for only a few minutes before they were rushed off to do checks on paris and I was rushed off to recovery. This was the most horrible part for me, if I could change anything I would change this. I was in recovery for about an hour (see how our stories differ LOL) surrounded by moaning women who had probably just come out of some serious operations (most were older so I don't think they were c/s or labour related). The nurses in there were wandering around acting as though we didn't exist talking about their weekends and how "trashed" they got. Most of the women were quite out of it, I however wasn't so I found this quite distressing. Here I was a new mother stuck in a room with my baby and my husband not by my side. I felt like recovery had cheapened the experience and since speaking to one of my gf's I know that some hospitals do not believe in seperating families during recovery (this is something I am going to ask about when chosing a hospital second time around). I guess you could say I felt ripped off by the fact that paris' first moments were not spent with the person who carried her for 9 mths and this distressed me quite alot. Even now nearly 3 yrs later it upsets me. But on the opposite side, I am greatful that marc got to experience what alot of dads usually don't, he was the one who had those first prescious moments with her and thats beautiful. And I would rather that then have him by my side whilst she was off in a nursery somewhere. Its funny I know some women who didn't mind the C/S experience at all but ALOT felt the same way I did and I really don't understand why if its so distressing for the mother to be seperated why they still do it when I know it is possible (as they do it in some hospitals) for everyone to be together.
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