Hi All
Just need to get this off my chest (LOL)
MIL never bfed either of her boys...
I think she is threatened that my SIl and I are bith avid bfeeders..
Anyway she insists on 'helping' me- ie when my son pulls off and cries sometimes (i have v fast flow in one side in particular) - she rushes over and pats his head, tries to wipe his mouth etc... wtf she is 3 cms from my nipple....
She also refers to every feed as a 'top up' which gets on my nerves...
and gives me advice all the time when she would have no clue - dont feed him so often to stop fast flow (???), hold him ina diff way etc
She also asks me 'is your milk def ok' bc he has wind pain and 'do you have enough' bc he feeds often and fast
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
I know it isnta bigdealbut theyare here this weekend and it is BUGGING ME BIG TIME!! so thought if i wrote it here i would be less likely to snap at her in real life LOL! thanks for reading.
Pap - you poor thing! I was getting irritated by her while just reading your post! Can you perhaps leave the room to feed? I know it's not ideal, but at least that way you can keep the peace with your Mil, and enjoy the feeding time. Good luck!
How irritating, I would feed in another room away from her as someone else suggested.
I found with fast flow if it was a prob I fed lying down which helped heaps.
oh yeah, it was annoying me just reading it too!
i think she might benefit from you snapping....... just once. Some people just don't get it, my MIL included and often need to be told!
I wish I could give you wise words of wisdom but all I can say from my experience is that it will get better. My MIL still thinks I do everything wrong with the boys (and I'm sure she still has issues with the fact that I bf ) but at least she knows now to say anything anymore.
I hope your weekend with MIL is nearly over and you get a break from her for a while now.
I would tell her that a nursing mum really needs a decent drink during a bf, and could she be a love and go and whip you up a smoothie so you don't dehydrate and you've got plenty of good stuff for your DS?
Thanks for the support girls - this thread got me through the weekend.... the good news is they are safely back at home.. bad news is they will be back in a week or so...!!!
i know she has good intentions and generally we get along well, they are good people... that's why i started the thread so i could vent here and not show it all outwardly...
anyway, thanks again - i'll prob be venting again in a week or so.
xxx
bit of a vent - MIL and BFeeding
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how annoying!
Some people just don't get it, my MIL included and often need to be told!
) but at least she knows now to say anything anymore.
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