the consent thing is the only issue for me - if i was out, even for half an hour - and DD was tired and distressed and someone could settle her, as long as i knew about it and didn't have any other options they could try (lets face it, for some BF babies, there is no alternative to boob when they're distressed) i'd rather they fed her. i hate hearing a baby scream in distress for even a couple of minutes, let alone half an hour. if there is a way to sooth them, i'm all for it

BUT, there has to be communication and consent.