Redrobinridinghood - you have just made the two points I was going to make, but have put far more succinctly.

The father must feed the child to bond is very pervasive in our society, people seemed to think I was doing some sort of disservice to my child and husband by not providing an opportunity for DH to feed.
I could almost write an essay on how damaging and undermining this belief is to womanhood and motherhood but it is so ingrained I dare not for fear of offending...how many generations will it take for us to reclaim motherhood??? Sorry OT but really passionate about this!!!