Dear Jack,
I'm sorry buddy. But I think the time has come for you to not need feeding every 2 hours at night when you can go for much longer without during the day. I know it sucks arse, mate, but together, we will get through this rough time of change. Hopefully without any lasting mental damage to either of us.
I know you can do this because you're a very clever little boy & you have managed this before, lots of times. But this time, mummy needs you to do it again, or she might just lose her mind. We'll start slow & steady, and I'll give you all the hugs in the world to help us through.
Thanking you in advance,
your shadow-of-her-former-self mum.
You will get there. I have had to do it with both of mine. Not my ideal choice but there has to be a balance between baby and the well being of the mum. I never left mine alone and we got through it with several nights of singing/pacing/cuddles.
Good luck and I hope you get some decent sleep soon xx
i found nights hard with DD, she fed more at night than in the day. but i also found that she weaned relitivly easily. but i think she was a few months older than your ds. id give her a cup of milk and sit with her/rock/pat etc till she was asleep. then after a while milk became water...not worth waking up for apparently so she stopped waking so much. i explained ''boobies are for the day time'' and told her she was a big girl. and then eventually she stopped waking altogether, although that didnt come till she was about 2 yrs old. but ithink she was ready. good luck. and wear a tight, boob covering top, dd was pretty sneaky and would be cuddling and then suddenly find a nipple and it was all over
How'd you go? It could take a good week to see any improvement.
just btw, I found with DS that if anything was going on for him (as it almost always was for the first 2 years or so) he just couldn't sleep. I mean, the stars all had to be alinged with jupiter for him to sleep longer than 2 hours at a time, you know? Nothing actually helped that unfortunately.
Good lukc!
Sleep better when they are active? Hahahahhahaha *cough* right, sure.
I really need to work on this night time thing too. He really really really likes to sleep with me, boobies or not. Problem is, as soon as he's in bed with me we BOTH fall asleep, so I'm not sleep deprived at all but there's this baby taking over the bed and that doesn't leave much room for two adults.
To make it worse though, he also insists on falling asleep on me during the day, too. He'll sleep in the car, and sometimes when the other half is holding him, but he's only fallen asleep on his own maybe 3 times in his life, and two of those was just me shoving him in his cot for a moment because we have a delivery or a client at the door right when I'm holding a horribly grouchy tired baby and I go to pick him back up afterwards and he's asleep, so I KNOW he can do it ...
We're... winning, sort of. Last night, DH actually put him to sleep last night, in what must be the first time in 6, or more, months. he gave him a bottle of ebm, and then jack rolled over in his arms, and went to sleep. win!
I was also able to settle him at midnight without much crying. Although i did have to hold him for a while as he objected to the cot. he then woke at 3am (i think...) where i fed him & brought him back to bed.
And a couple nights ago, he was fussing so much in my arms, i put him in his cot, drowsy & awake (he usually bypasses this stage & goes straight into over stimulated) - and he went to sleep. it was beautiful. Like a baby out of the book! So there's hope for us yet.
Hugs Hun, he'll be ok, you need your sleep because without it you'll turn into grumpy mum. He is old enough to get through the night without feed after feed after feed.
Good luck, you might have a few rough nights but after that... Sleep, blissful sleep!
Xx
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hun. It is tough isn't it. It is a really common age for separation anxiety which is quite bad timing for us mums as we are usually just starting to get busy lives again.
If it is separation anxiety, co-sleeping is an option that works for some mums - when they know that you are there, there is less need to wake. Otherwise if it is about the milk, sometimes trying to squeeze some extra feeds in during the day can help (oh yes, I know, he has too many other things to do to be interested during the day ). Even a dream feed during a day sleep, or bath time with mum can help.
At Jack's age hun, he can understand quite a lot. Many mums find that talking to their baby about it can really help - things like "mummy's milk is for when the sun is up" etc. You might be surprised at how much he understands (although that's still not to say that he'll like it!!).
Wow you are a complete trooper to be doing it at this age. As others have said he is old enough to understand and also to go without the food so you will be fine. And he will probably benefit from a less tired/stressed mum.
Sorry son...
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I can't offer any advice as I'm new on this BF journey but wanted to reach out to give you a huge :huh:
so she stopped waking so much. i explained ''boobies are for the day time'' and told her she was a big girl. and then eventually she stopped waking altogether, although that didnt come till she was about 2 yrs old. but ithink she was ready. good luck. and wear a tight, boob covering top, dd was pretty sneaky and would be cuddling and then suddenly find a nipple and it was all over 
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