Oh Ellee not very nice of your hubby to say those things. He needs a swift kick up the bum!

I don't think it could be your milk but you could always try eliminating various foods and drinks to see if anything could be the culprit. When I was BF'ing DS I know that if I drank orange juice it upset his tummy and made him cranky. I don't think formula would change things either.

Do you use a sling? Maybe you can carry her around the house in a sling and that way she is close to you and you have your hands free to chuck on a load of washing or do the dishes etc. And the movements of you walking around might help soothe her?

She could be going through a growth spurt like TK says. She's not far off the recommend age for starting solids so she may just be gearing up for that.

It's hard isn't it trying to manage everything. Try not to worry about the housework and what your hubby says. It won't last forever!