Hi ladies - looking for some advice or ideas for one of my lovely gfs who is having some feeding and night waking issues with her 4.5 month old. My poor friend is seriously suffering from sleep depreviation and with an almost 3 year old as well is struggling at the mo so I thought I'd come to the right place to potentially get some help and ideas for her.

Bub is exclusively BF and refuses to take any bottle so all the feeding comes down to my friend. Her DD never settled well in the evenings when she was born and would look to cluster feed from 5ish to anything up to 12ish when she was little. Gradually this settled down so that she is normally now able to have her down after a feed at about 7.30pm or so. She will wake again for another feed at prob about 10.30/11pm and then will wake pretty much two hourly after this. During the day she is generally fine and will go from between 3-4 hours in between feeds so she is definitely able to "last" for longer than the 2 hourly stints she is doing at night. She will sleep during the day but apart from first thing in the morning (after her 5am ish feed) when she will do a long stint - 2-3 hour sleep she will generally only sleep for one sleep cycle ie 40 mins or so. She is generally happy to be awake and in her rocker or whereever so the shorter naps during the day aren't as much of an issue. However as I mentioned the constant waking and lack of sleep during the night is very very draining.

I know all babies are different but if anyone has any ideas or suggestions on anything that my friend can do to stretch out the night time sleeps and reduce the wakings it would be great. My friend believes she is feeding as she can feel her drawing when she is attached but would like to try to get her day and night cycles reversed. They don't normally co sleep unless my friend is really really tired and it is just easier but bub does sleep in bassinette right beside her.

Would love to be able to give her some advice or ideas.

TIA