Big hugs Nic. YOu are doing a great job. Another thing I know a friend of mine had some success with, was not wearing a top or bra for a couple of days (obviously this was just at home!!). Having the bbs so obvious and accessible eventually enticed her baby to give them a try. Also, some people have more success in a totally relaxed setting. If someone could take your toddler for a couple of hours maybe you and the baby could have a long bath and then just slowly and gently offer your breast. I really hope it gets easier for you soon, if you can get past this there will be nothing stopping you!