Thank you for your replies in this thread. I appreciate them

Now it appears that perhaps DD didn't have silent reflux after all and that she was just screaming in hunger..... because I was B/feeding her but found out on Monday she wasn't getting enough as she had lost more weight.... we've had many issues with this BFing like attachment issues, damaged nipples, DD being a lazy feeder etc.... now we have her on formula top ups and EBM she is doing much better and sleeping much better and even sleeps during the day now too!!
We still have her on Homeopathic remedy for reflux to see if that helps anyway also helps with wind and colic just incase.

Oh this parenting is confusing when one person tells you that your baby probably has silent reflux and another specialist tells you your baby was just STARVING!!

eta i have a BF thread going in the BF support area.