Curious As To Everyones Thoughts?

[Hollybolly]

Hi Girls

Just something I wanted to pass by everyone - its a little premature as its a little while off, but definately something on my mind & would love to get your thoughts/suggestions.

DS2 is now 14 weeks old & feeding beautifully - as some of you know, it took almost 8yrs of IVF to get him here.

DH & I have made the decision (along with our FS) that we won't leave it too long before we go back to do another cycle to try for another bub... my FS believes in terms of fertility & my age, the sooner the better... and I'm still so clucky now I could be pregnant again & be blissfully happy!

We've decided on waiting until approx June next year to try again... only because I wanted bub to have at least 12 months breastfeeding before I had to wean (as feeding throughout the cycle isn't an option - I already asked my FS but he said the medications I'll be on for my particular issues are too dangerous to take whilst passing through breastmilk).

So - my questions;

If I were to express throughout the cycle of meds (approx 6 weeks) and discard the milk, but had a good enough supply of EBM in the freezer to continue feeding throughout that time... is there an average period it would take for my system to be drug free? (ie how long roughly does it take for medication to be out of the breastmilk?) Or is it different depending on the severity of the drug?
Also, if I had to feed him the EBM through a bottle over that period, what are the chances he would take to the breast again at approx 12 months old after he hadn't had contact with the breast for 6 weeks?

Can someone please explain how tandem feeding works once the new bub is here as obviously there would be no colostrum if I'm already feeding? Would the newborn be getting the right type of milk/goodness in the beginning?

I would love to continue feeding DS until he weaned himself, (so longer than the 12 months I'm thinking of - if of course, he was happy to keep feeding) and not have to put a limit on it... but at the same time, we are on a bit of a time frame for the next cycle if we want to have more children, due to my issues & having to do IVF... so waiting longer than June next year to start TTC again is not an option either

The only other thing.... my FS thinks I would have to wean before trying again for another bub as I would need to have my period back. (He said he wasn't 100% about having to wean, but presumed I would need to for my period to start again) - I know with DS1 it didn't return until he had weaned completely.


So - heaps to consider, and I know its still a while off, just throwing things out there!

Any thoughts would be appreciated (If you can make sense of even what I'm asking! )

Thanks in advance