DS1 didn't attach properly adn I was having similar probs with ds2. An lc I saw suggested nipple shields and they were just wonderful. I had the medela ones too, yes they can reduce your supply but if it is bf with shields or no feeding at all then shields would be your better option. It really just makes it so easy ds would just go on just like drinking a bottle you aren't working to attach them. It might just get you through so you dd gets if I suck I get milk and then once she is in that rhythm and you are feeding her she is growing etc you're more confident and then you can ditch the shields, I used them for 5weeks and with all my heart I believe if I had them with ds1 I would have been able to bf him too.
I just want to say that while there is nothing wrong with ff I have found bf to be just the most beautiful thing and so I just wanted to say push on like you did to get your vbac if it is somethiikng you would like to experience. You aren't destined to not bf its just its a struggle now and I know it feeld like it would always be like this but often the solutions can be so simple and before you know it you could feed with your eyes closer and your handds tied behind your back.
I think the shields would be a good option to try but I would really really suggest the lc!
i hope you get some IN REAL LIFE help. to help you use those nipple shields.
Some people DO do full time expressing bf in a bottle.
You obv have a great supply, so it's not that Eden won't get bm, it's a matter of HOW she takes it in, direct from you or from the bottle, or a mix?
have you tried giving her the bm in any other ways, than the bottle?
e.g syringe, eye dropper.
(to avoid "nipple confusion").
to try the breast crawl thingy, try it when you're lying down e.g on comfy big bed. have some rolled up towels to put behind your back for support if you end up feeding her on your side. you might need to roll up a small towel under your breast to help position yourself for her.
feeding lying down takes practice (well it did for me), but it's well worth learning, you get more sleep if you can feed lying down.
we struggled the first few months, bilby and me.
if you are feeling extrememly full, can you express off more milk inbetween feeds? to empty out your breasts a bit. the watermelon feeling will settle down, it won't always be this painful.
times you can't manage a hot shower (lack of time), try hot water compresses with a flannel. stick that in your maternity bra for some relief.
hope it improves for you soon petal.
don't compare yourself to others, please don't beat yourself up over what happened with your other children, you and Eden are starting a NEW r'ship, and you'll work it out, over time. Whatever works for you and Eden, will be just fine.
establishing a breastfeeding r'ship takes time. Early feeding can be very time consuming. Being relaxed enough to do it (both of you) is important.
What do your other two do, when you're feeding? Are you able to focus on Eden and yourself, or are you wrangling the other two simulataneously?
i am in awe of mums of more than one! you rock Mel.
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