Hi,

This is what parenting and building a family is made of. From the minute they are put into your arms it's a compromise. Its how life works. You are always pushed or pulled and through it all you try your best to meet your needs.....and meet your own needs. Generally the two are out of sinc with each other. If you cultivate feelings of guilt now - hang on to your hats you are in for a very bumpy parenting ride. As a parent SO MUCH is out of our control. In our society we have built a faint illusion that we are "in control" - we are not. Despite our best intentions things happen - a new pregnancy, an illness who knows. Life makes a sudden turn. but you need to weave it into the fabric of your life.
If your toddler and small child wants to feed (even your bigger kid - mine did) go for it. It's great. I breastfed for 17 straight years. A lot of the time I was "over it' in the same way I am over making school lunches every day - but it's just part of life. Its a short and special time in your lifespan. You don't have to love it all the time, but it's precious. And you do it for yourself and your child. And mothers who do this deserve a big CHEER - not snide remarks about doing it for themselves - so blow that off. People who say these things are profoundly ignorant and sadly refuse to be educated. Be confident in what you do and hang around with other like minded parents (ABA is a good starting point!)