It sounds as though you're having a tough time Lori . Hun, I would be inclined not to guess what the ABA would say, and give them a call 1800 MUM2MUM. You can explain that you've been down this road before, and what made things worse for your DS. You will likely find that the counsellor will be quite happy to talk things through with you, rather than just telling you what to do.

I'm afraid that i don't have any brilliant suggestions for you myself, sorry. One thing that is popping into my mind is that she might need a little rest between feeds, I know you use a sling, does that settle her at all? Do you have a sling that keeps her upright? As for which point would be best to try and settle her in other ways, I'm not sure. You would possibly know yourself, or hopefully Barb will pop in and give you some brilliant suggestions . Otherwise, do you think you may have a fast let down? If that's the case, you can try different feeding positions to lessen the flow for her. If you would like more info, sing out, and one of us can tell you more about it . How old was your DS when this phase settled for him?

Hang in there Lori, tough times, but you know it will get better