Feeling upset from negativity towards my choice to toddler bf and tandem feed

[Pretty Butterfly]

Oh honey....

You know all the right answers to those ridiculous comments!!

It was very loosely said to me when I was breastfeeding #4, and #5 was diasgnosed with Cleft Lip and Palate, that it was becasue I breastfed through my pregnancy...

It was a devastating thing to say to a very emotional, upset mummy... I already had enough guilt.

I have b'fed through 3 pregnancies, but all have weened before being able to tandem feed unfortunatly.

If you do get to, lucky you!!!!!
Good luck babe!!

[MantaRay]

Jodie. What an awful, ignorant and insensitive thing for someone to say. And such a load of rubbish!

[Snoopea]

I agree with you fully do what you thinks right!!!! I wish I'd had the chance to tandem feed..... well maybe i still will! I think your wonderful still feeding while pregnant and it proves how strong you really are!!!!! Like every where you go someone will always have a negative coment, try and throw it back at them they'll get uncomfotable then!!!
Best of luck with your up coming birth and tandem feeding!!!!!
Snoopea

[Marlene]

Lee, congrats on doing a wonderful job Bfing! I'm glad you had answers ready for all those negative people. I don't know why people have the idea that they can comment on soemthing so personal.

It was very loosely said to me when I was breastfeeding #4, and #5 was diasgnosed with Cleft Lip and Palate, that it was becasue I breastfed through my pregnancy...

Oh Purplemamma, that is absolutely DISGUSTING!! I can not believe that someone would even "loosely" say that. I don't know how you held yourself back from smacking them out!!

[Neenee Jellybeanie]

Ugh, the ignorance of some people, honestly!! You're doing a fantastic job BFing, don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

[Ozziehoffy]

Lee, it's hard when people don't see bf an older bub (toddler) as normal I know. It seems that a lot of society see that if you bf past 6 months there is something wrong with it. I never saw myself going past 12 months but Oskar had other ideas and is still going at 18 1/2 months - however, I still see him as a baby in so many ways as well if that makes sense. I had an app at the hossy last week and the midwife (who was overall nice etc) made the comment to me that it will drain me to keep bf and being pg. TBH I don't think I'm any more tired now than I was when pg with Oskar. Good on you for commenting back!! You do what you find is best for you babies and don't you mind what others think!!!!

Jodi... what an inconsiderate comment to have made to you, what a load of hogwash!

[Snacks]

Oh man, people SUCK. Lee - you're doing brilliantly and you'll keep doing brilliantly by both your kids.
I've heard so many fascinating things about tandem feeding - our bodies are so amazing. I heard one lady made two different types of milk at the same time - one breast made newborn milk and one made toddler milk (she knew because she asked her toddler, LOL!). Your body will do you proud, Lee, so hang in there and ignore people who are threatened by your Mummy-Goddess-type qualities
And hugs to those other girls who have suffered because of the insensitive, uneducated comments of family members, friends and complete strangers alike - you are all awesome and should be proud of yourselves.

[Junglemum]

Lee- i am struggling with the same battle atm. DD is 12 months and i am 18 weeks preg. I am sick of the looks and comments about me 'still' BF'ing.

The comments like

You need to have a break from bf, because you will fade away to nothing. It will take it all out of you" (This being said while glaring at me).

drive me crazy. It seems everyone thinks they know my body and babies better than i do. They say these comments like they are concened for my health, but they are not concerned, they are just being judgemental. If they were concerned then they would be supportive not critical.

Up theirs i say. I avoid talking about it now, or change the subject. I don't want to hear their negative crap. Like you, i'll take it as it comes, and i am sure i will make the right decision for all of us. Good luck to you.

[Beach Mama]

Oh sweety Some people are so RUDE and IGNORANT...... what is it about breastfeeding that makes people think they have all the answers and can question someones choices about it.... Good on you for having a reply hun and just remember you are right and they are uneducated and ill-informed and wrong which is pretty sad really... Hang in there and good luck hun.
I already get weird looks when I say that I want to breastfeed this little man longer than I did Izzy which was 11 mths

[Jennifer13]

: to them!

Good on you for having some comments on hand to stand up for yourself. Since when did your body and your parenting become their issue? Perhaps you should be giving them advice on weight loss, toilet habits and sex?

[kellmay]

As a lady who found breast feeding to hard after trying sooooo hard, i say go girl feed feed feed, just wish i had your problem. stuff 'em you are doing what women all over the world wish they could do.

[gardeningkate]

I am glad to see that I am not the only one. I have found it is interesting to just look confused and ask why, why should I stop, most people don't really know what they are talking about and this becomes clear to everyone including themselves as they grasp at reasons that you need to stop. Give them enough rope, open up the conversation and they will eventually just mubble and wander away!

[Gabi]

I really admire you extended and tandem breastfeeders. Society has taught many of us that b/f is wrong, let alone extended breastfeeding. You are paving the way for us all and hopefully because of your hard work our daughters will not have to face this negativity. Our mothers had to be pioneers and earn our right to birth the way we want to, you are pioneers - earning us the right to nurse the way we want to.

I really want to make it as far as you girls. We've only been nursing for 14 weeks so far, but it's not enough! I want MORE MORE MORE! (and so does my nursling haha).