Thanks for the reply, I know what you mean....it's not a BF problem, good point. I just put it in this thread as I figured many who had BF may have been is the same situation as it's a different form of comfort etc and I could get some advice. Guess I'm just not that good with being soooo tired, my DH works away lots & we don't live near any family.....so there are no free arvo's etc for a catch up nap & DS 1 doesn't sleep in the arvo anymore. I never like DS 1 sleeping in our bed, but perhaps I could chuck DH out for a night & see how it goes. Thanks.