You are doing so awesomely well!! I can understand the overwhelmed feeling but truely, it sounds like you have a content little bubba there. If you have decided that feeding every 3 hours is right for you then fabulous and from my understanding if she has the wet and poo nappies during the day then it's all good. The weight is another factor but you could totally be worried about nothing. Just wait and see what the scales say but my guess is if your CHN forgot her scales and didn't tell you to get her weighed asap or anything like that, she isn't too worried.