hey, i'm going thru a similar scenario, wondering the same things, but throwing into the mix the fact that i have been giving EBM in a bottle at times, and also formula at times, and also he has thrush that i haven't been able to get rid of, so i really have NO IDEA why he feeds well sometimes (thru the night) and during the day comes off and screams, and re-attaches then cries again... i feel like his mouth is sore, but then why does he feed okay in the middle of the night.... so what happens is i give up on the feed and give him the dummy, however if i gave him a bottle he would drink, so i really have no idea...

he is 7 weeks and i thought we'd have things established now too.... sometimes i want to give up, as during the day which is when we are out, i never know if he is going to feed, and if he doesn't, it means i have a cranky hungry baby to try to console while i am busy trying to get things done, whereas if i had a bottle i could feed him.... so the whole convenience/ease factor of breast feeding while we are out and about goes out the window, as its just not happening.

i'm going to give it a few more weeks then re-assess the situation.