Shower, massage, shower, massage, shower! Don't worry about the water use - it's for medicinal use!
The cabbage should be find as long as you're not leaving it on for hours at a time. Take the leaves off when they lose their firmness and have become warm, take a break, then put them on later. You shouldn't need to apply them much to reduce inflammation.
They CAN be used to dry up supply, as well - so it's more about moderation
I've had these symptoms more times than I care to think about, and I've managed to stave off the full blown affair to never have to be on AB's...but then, I also had a small succubus to help me out, too, and it might be a bit more drawn out pre-baby.
Definitely commiserations from me! xxx