I feel so much better after the LC came to visit today, she was a lovely lady too. Basically we had a long chat about the various issues, reflux, my toddler, the tandem, my feelings, and i feel much better just getting it all off my chest to someone experienced in all these areas. She's shown me some new positions which can help with the reflux and a couple of general techniques to try as well. She's reassured me about demand feeding my toddler and that he's okay not eating food (as he barely is at the moment), she said he will one day 're-join the land of the eating' LOL and to continue demand feeding him feels more natural for me than limiting as i was. She also reminded me about this adjustment being hard for him and that he doesn't understand to wait and not having it developmentally.... she said his increased feeding reflects his need for comfort and attention so i feel that i need to focus more on supporting him through this instead of taking his demanding of it and me personally and becoming frustrated myself. So i just have to get through this period where they both want to feed all the time because as she said, it won't last forever. She also reinforced that it will help getting to an aba meeting and seeing others breastfeeding and even tandem feeding, as i'm just not around anyone thats even breastfeeding which is another reason i feel alienated.
So i have some new found confidence and enthusiasm
MummaB, I have tears in my eyes reading your post, you sound so good! Your LC sounds like she's worth her weight in gold, I'm so glad she could reassure you in so many ways. You're doing a great job hun, good on you!
You sound much happier, I think mummab as you said we can only give you so much support & you needed some IRL support. I'm glad the LC was so good. I'm glad you have your enthusiasm back & even though it would be demanding feeding them both it does sound more peaceful, happy kids = happy mum. Hope the new positions help with the reflux - is that settling down?
I hope you make it to the ABA meeting as well. As usual sending you lot's of
you sound so much better MummaB, i'm glad.
it's funny how you just get sooo overtired and frustrated and upset and start doing your head in a little bit, and then sometimes just talking to someone who 'understands' makes all the difference doesn't it? i started doing my head in a few weeks ago about ds feeding to sleep too much and people constantly telling me to get him out of my bed. the last few days i pulled out my old trusty Pinky McKay book again and started re-reading it- ahhhh, it feels so good, its like talking to an old friend that 'gets it'. i feel so much better about everything i'm doing- i hope you feel a similar sort of 'renewed feeling'. i'm just so glad at how much more positive you sound today. you soundlike you got some real reassurance and help with all the difficulties you've been having. you're such a great mother to hang in there the way that you have.
you'll have to let us know how your aba meeting goes. haveyou got any close friends around that you could go on a walk with, get out and enjoy the fresh air with your 2 beautiful boys?
Last edited by Ginger; September 5th, 2008 at 10:48 PM.
What a fantastic visit I'm glad you feel better about demand feeding your toddler. Reassurance like that can get all that doubt right out of your head and make you feel so much better, can't it. You've just got to go with their level of comprehension.. my DS was fine being told to wait LOL. He seemed to understand the concept of 'not now, later' so that wasn't a huge issue for us.
Enjoy your peaceful household, and find some good movies to put on while you're doing all this feeding
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here are the boys again, better photo than the other one https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...php?photo=9051
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