Thanks here are the boys again, better photo than the other one https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...php?photo=9051

I feel so much better after the LC came to visit today, she was a lovely lady too. Basically we had a long chat about the various issues, reflux, my toddler, the tandem, my feelings, and i feel much better just getting it all off my chest to someone experienced in all these areas. She's shown me some new positions which can help with the reflux and a couple of general techniques to try as well. She's reassured me about demand feeding my toddler and that he's okay not eating food (as he barely is at the moment), she said he will one day 're-join the land of the eating' LOL and to continue demand feeding him feels more natural for me than limiting as i was. She also reminded me about this adjustment being hard for him and that he doesn't understand to wait and not having it developmentally.... she said his increased feeding reflects his need for comfort and attention so i feel that i need to focus more on supporting him through this instead of taking his demanding of it and me personally and becoming frustrated myself. So i just have to get through this period where they both want to feed all the time because as she said, it won't last forever. She also reinforced that it will help getting to an aba meeting and seeing others breastfeeding and even tandem feeding, as i'm just not around anyone thats even breastfeeding which is another reason i feel alienated.

So i have some new found confidence and enthusiasm