I'll try to keep this short.

My almost 3 yo DS who has been officially weaned for about 8 months, still wants to BF. He never wanted to give up but I needed him to. After his baby sister was born 5 months ago, he started asking for BFs again. Occasionally when I've really needed him to stop whinging and go down for a sleep (he WILL NOT nap since we weaned), I've relented and given him a feed. THis has reinforced his asking for it since occasionally it pays off. Now he asks several times a day and gets quite upset that I say no.

I feel so mean saying no. I keep vacilating in my head about whether I should just give in and let him feed again. DH isn't keen on it because he has worked for months and months and months to get him into a good routine in going to bed (he would NOT sleep without a feed), and if he starts feeding again, all that hard work will be erased and he'll want me to BF him to sleep every night. I'm not that keen because weaning was really difficult on us all. I'm also not keen because he is very demanding with BFing. He won't compromise. He nags and nags and nags. He wants BFs constantly. He wants to feed for ages (like 30-40 minutes). He wont go to sleep without it. Before he weaned I was really stressed out from the BFing relationship we had, Actually the more I type the more I realise it would be bad to let him start again.

But at the same time, he's getting more and more insistent. And more and more jealous. He "don't wanna be a big boy". He doesn't understand why his little sister can have (several times a day) what he so desperately wants. I feel so mean. He needs to nap but just won't nap unless he has a BF. He needs to go to bed at 8pm but just won't go to sleep until he's exhausted at 10pm. He's so tired and cranky all the time. So in some ways it would make life a lot easier.

What would you say? What would you do? Has anyone dealt with this before?