Ruining my chances?

[Rainbow_Mumma]

Thanks ladies I think the bottle part time will help in here because I live 30kms away and still have to deal with the kids at home I don't think breast 100% would work for us whilst here .... Such a tough decision.
The discharge nurses found me here I was hiding in the nursery but they found me and are getting my discharge papers ready ... I don't think I can leave .....


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[Pretty Butterfly]

If you are going to combine breast with bottle anyway, there is no reason why you cant start now lovey.... I have EBM fed for almost a year, and with some meds, had enough milk to feed the whole street!!! lol

[aussienic]

It is so hard going home without your baby. I did find it quite difficult to be honest but I also enjoyed being home with my older son because I missed him so much when I was in hospital.. I was lucky cus I stayed at my mums and she only lived down the hill.. Can you get red cross accom close to the hosp? They are usually quite cheap. We were offered it as we were from out of town but like I said mum lived down the hill.

The red cross house was right across the road from the hosp as well

[Gigi]

what about feeding them the EBM through a pipette? (the little tube with a squeezy thing at the end, hope i am using the right word for them).

i found private LC's and ABA counsellors, alot more knowledgeable that hospy LC's. The lactation clinic at the local labour hospital here, only helps mothers and new bubs, up to when bubs are 10 weeks old - so when a friend of mine had issues when bubs was older than 10 weeks, she wasn't eligible for help from them. I found with breastfeeding, and we did it for years, when you need help with bf-ing, it's not on a schedule, things happen when they happen.

barb glare on this forum, is another wonderful resource, she gave you great advice yesterday, why not ask her about this too?

bf-ing advice is very time sensitive, when you need help, you need it NOW, so it's good to have a bank of reliable sources, your GO TO people.

i joined my local ABA, (learnt so much by going to the local group during my pregnancy, just listening to the other mum's experiences), went to a ABA seminar, had my midwife visit me frequently for first six weeks of my child's life (so good to have that consistency, one person advising me for first 6 weeks), the ABA phone helpline, a private lactation consultant (twice), and many times posting on ABA website, here at BB, La Leche League, Kellymom.

Everyone will be different
the resources around you
the resources you source and can access
what suits you best

I would be asking ABA about nipple confusion (e.g the bottle and the breast) and get advice about how to get premmies to suck.

Whoever is helping you with the twins, needs to be "on board" too, so whatever you learn and decide to do, your support person needs to know too, so they can carry out your plans. Consistency is important.

They also need to know how important they support is. Many times bf-ing mums have doubts, wonder if they can do it, and having moral support, having support people bring them a sandwich they can eat with one hand, water, whatever you need at the time, people facilitating you being able to breastfeed, can make so much difference. My X did this (when he was home) and it made an enormous difference. Talked in a positive way about the bf-ing, how healthy bilby was, what a great thing it was - sometimes i felt down and really needed to hear this stuff, to keep me going.

[Gigi]

Nikki, i just re-read your post. You had "breastfeeding" and "failure" in the same sentence so i feel compelled to post again.

Honey, listen to me, you have already been expressing like a trooper.
You have succeeded ALREADY hon.
Your bubs have already received your colostrum.
Fullstop.
Even if they never get another drop of your BM, THEY GOT THE COLOSTRUM.
that stuff is GOLD - and it's only a few drops. So valuable for their health.

Take one day at a time.

However long you breastfeed for, it's all a success, be it three hours, three days, three weeks, three months, three years.

it's not a competition

there are so many things mums beat themselves up about (i know, cos i did it too).

but take the bf-ing one day at a time

you are doing so well, and you're doing it double with twins, plus they're premmies

I really want to congratulate you for where you are with bf-ing RIGHT NOW, don't think too far ahead. Thinking about TODAY is enough for now.

You've just had twins, You've just delivered premmies, Your milk has just come in, you're swamped with hormones, it's a HUGE time for you hon. And the thought of being separated from your premmies, while they get big enough to be allowed home - i can well understand why you're anxious.

remember to breathe sweetie.

aba helpline - 1800 686 2 686
I wish i could afford to give every new mum, a subscription to ABA, they send you this great magazine called ESSENCE every two months, every page is all about mums breastfeeding, articles about every aspect of bf-ing you could imagine.
ANd i love the ABA calendars, had them on my kitchen wall, beautiful bf-ing photos that really boosted me, when i was alone with my bub day after day.

the lack of illnesses, using a breastfeed instead of painkillers when they hurt themselves, so glad we went this route.