Moving interstate... all opinions needed!

[{sarah}]

I would go wherever I feel most supported wherever that may be. I'm lucky to have very supportive family on both sides, very close by but if I didn't have that I'd move to somewhere that I did. A village is so so important for kids & SAHMs IMO.

[Visitor7]

I would go wherever I feel most supported wherever that may be. I'm lucky to have very supportive family on both sides, very close by but if I didn't have that I'd move to somewhere that I did. A village is so so important for kids & SAHMs IMO.

:yeahthat: I can't agree more.

If I didn't have a village, I'd be lost. If DH & I moved south, he'd be earning a lot more money in his trade and we could easily sell our house and buy another. But there would be no village. Our village is here in Cairns. And until that's gone, that's where we stay.

[Malyna]

I would go to where the support was.. where you felt there was a village.. If it is something you need, and if after weighing up all the pros and cons, it is still important then to a village I would head!!

[cindyb]

I have done the move interstate to be closer to my village and couldnt be happier. I now have fantastic friends (my family are pretty useless to me) who are my back bone nice and close to me!

Its a big decision but you know what - if you dont like it when you move - you can always go back!

DD#1 was 6 months old when we made the move from gold coast to melb and we were determined to give it 12 months before we made a decision of where to stay and while i miss my friends on the coast sooo much, they just werent in the same place as me with their lives....

[alioops]

Hun, if most of your network is one place then go to your network!!! BB is one of the biggest villages I have up here and the girls I have met IRL have been life savers. I would be even more nuts without them!!

Is there a zoo where you are looking at going to that would see Shel's experience and long service as a very useful backup? Does she have someone who would give her a glowing reference? Having a history like hers in her workplace can really work for her if she wants to do the same thing.

All the best with your decision hun. If you do decide to go, you know there are a few of us around here who have done it with small children that can give you some keys to helping it go smoothly.

[The[cookie]Doctor]

We are doing this, sort of.
We aren't moving to 'our village' however i have been told that tiny town will become our 'village' no worries.
We are moving away from friends and nearer to family so i can gain more support, because it is right for us.
Like Shel, we are both unskilled so finding a job will be tough, but we need this. It isn't a matter of choice anymore, we both need it.
And you will make things work, no job or not, less money or not. Do what you feel is right Leash.

[misty]

I would be inclined to want to move. But I wouldn't just up and do it. Rather I would have my partner start some serious job hunting in the area you wish to move to - and try and secure a new job before giving up the old one.

The other option is looking into starting up your own community where you live. put some flyers out there and try and see if there is anyone else in your situation who also feels like they would like support or are willing to help support others.

[Inanna]

I am reading a book at the moment and one of the lines goes something like this: If you don't have a feeling of butterflies in your belly or nervous apprehension you are staying too safe... Now, what that is saying to me is that sometimes we have to go to the edge and jump. Change is realy really scary but staying the same can be scary too.

My motto is: nothing ventured nothing gained. Go where your heart is telling you to go. That may be here or it may be there. Really listen to your heart song - it is NEVER wrong...