You've had heaps of great advice already. The only thing I would add is try not to stress about the spinal, think about something else while they do it. I didn't feel a thing at all when mine was done. Also, when you decide to get up for the first time, do it about half an hour after you get a dose of pain meds - makes it much more comfortable and easy to do. Sometimes the midwives will offer to help with the first shower but you can ask for your DH to do it if you'd prefer. Oh and one last thing, if there's anything you particularly want to happen (skin on skin, no separation, anxiolosis, catheter after spinal, etc) talk to your care provider before the day and get them to make a note in your file. 'Hospital policy' sounds like it can't be argued with, but it darn well can be!