Hi Leigh,

I'm sorry to hear you've had difficult experiences of giving birth so far. I also had an inverted t incision after my 2nd c-section. I have ended up with having 3 (emergency) c-sections and knowing that the 3rd baby would be my last it really helped to be able to have as much control as possible in the situation. I believe this helped me to deal with the disappointment and grief that i'd never have a normal birth.

So perhaps have a think about breastfeeding, as you said it's important to you, and how you can prepare in case there is a delay in getting to bubs. If there is going to be a delay you may want to think about being prepared to express as soon as you are able to after birth and every couple of hours after that to stimulate milk supply and provide colostrum to your baby. And make sure the medical team know your intentions too so they can be prepared to support you. You can contact the ABA for some more information i'm sure.

After my last c-section i had DD3 in bed with me the whole time after the first few hrs so i was able to do lots of skin to skin and feed her often. I know this really helped with my feeding plus i didn't have to ask for someone to lift DD3 out of the crib for me, i was a little more independent.

I personally also was really interested to see my placenta having never seen it before so it was brought to me the next day for us to have a look at.

I guess there are some things you can control and we have to let go of the things we can't. So much easier said than done.

Best of luck for the birth of your little one and a speedy recovery.