Nic -
My cathether was done after my epidural. They didn't allow DH to be with me while the epi was being done - he had to go sit in their staff room and a nurse made him a coffee . Afterwards I realised this was probably better for me - it made me a bit 'braver', I tend to be a bit sooky around DH if i am scared. This way i could just concentrate on their instructions and I was helped by the most wonderful midwife, Ricki. She held onto me and didn't let go. Bubs and DH were both in recovery with me (our hospital actually encourages it unless there is complications). We could take a camera but no video - for reasons that MG said. Our midwife actually took photos for us, which was great. Good luck with everything!