thankyou for your replies ladies.

The jury is still out on my decision Whichever way it goes, if I choose to have another CS it will be MY decision. As with my first birth I felt that I wasn't very involved in the whole decision process and i think that was part of the reason why I was so disappointed about the outcome.
My new OB (who is brilliant!) is telling ME to remain positive about my vbac chances, but I can't help but feel there are a few little obstacles. I have GD this time, bub is currently breech (although I know theres plenty of time for him to turn), and I've got a sneaking suspicion my BP will start playing up in the comming weeks (as it did my first pregnancy).
Also I can't get this little thing out of my head where my Old Ob said to me that she thought my pelvis was a funny shape that wouldn't allow bub to engage. She said this very early in my first pregnancy and I didn't take much notice, but when DD wasn't engaged at 38 weeks it got me wondering whether she was right. I know in reality that CPD is mean't to be extremely rare but the "what if I am one of the rare ones) seed has already been planted in my head.

Time will tell i guess