Why is it selfish? It's your birth sweetheart, you've got to do what you think is going to have the best outcome.

I know that I wouldn't want to have to recover again from a really long labour and a cs with complications, especially not now that I already have another child to care for. And like I said, I'm lucky in some ways that the choice is out of my hands, but if I did have the option to try for a VBAC my decision whether to do so would be weighted by my understanding of what it's like to recover from a cs after long labour, and what I personally felt was the likelihood of that happening again.

Although it is still a total 'rock and a hard place' decision, I suppose that at least this way we can make our cs births as much on our own terms as we can, which is much harder to do with an emergency cs.