what a dilemna for you Ali

i have no advice
i'm glad your dh is supportive
i'm glad Defense is prepared to assist with care options
i wish i was medically educated so i could help you - it sounds like a very specialised area of medical expertise that you need

thinking of you

i just saw your newest post - i can hear the relief in your voice, and can understand why that brochure helped you make the decision, makes sense to me too.

One less thing to stress about heh? I'm glad you have a solution now, and one that won't give you the lingering "what if" thoughts.