My Caesarean Scar says...

[Charlotte91]

I've taken this idea off a website which involves women uploading pictures of their c/s scars and saying what they feel their scar says.

What does your scar say when you look at it?

For me, my scar says 2 things, depending on the day.

On most days it says "I'm here as a constant reminder that you failed. I remind you that you couldn't keep your child safe. I remind you that your placenta failed, nearly killing your child. You didn't give birth.."

But, sometimes it'll remind me that I have a battle scar. My child went through so much, and has her own battle scar. Its only fair that I have one too.

What does your scar say?

Sorry to start it off so depressing.

[zap]

My scar said I made the right decision to bring my boys here safely.
It also says I will be judged on how I choose to birth in the future.

[Beach Mama]

It's not depressing hun - many of us still after years face the trauma of what we had to go through to get our babies here safely. I struggle with my scars and what they mean but have come to a place where I look at my scars ( I have 2!) and both say

"This is where my child was birthed from my body to join us here safely"

DD often sees mine and she knows that that is her special "line" that helped her come into the world. We "gave birth" through these lines - our battle was different from others who give birth naturally but we still gave life through this scar and although I am not proud per se, I know that this is the way it is and I have finally accepted it. xoxox

[Glass half full]

I hope your scar says kinder things to you as time goes by.
I'll lighten it up a bit if you don't mind
My scar tells me I have a beautiful, healthy little girl in my life. It tells me that I am an amazing, strong women for going through a major surgery and making it through all the fear I had while lying in theater waiting. And it makes me even prouder of birthing my son vaginally because I did it against all the odds

I realize a lot of people will have quite raw, upsetting feelings about their scars so I hope I'm not being insensitive by being so positive.


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[Amity]

My scar says "My son and I are alive today". Because we sure as hell wouldn't be here otherwise.

I know everyone has different feelings about their scars - and I acknowledge that c/s can be extremely difficult, physically and emotionally. I still get tugging in mine sometimes. And I don't like my "gunt" - the flap of skin above it that sags... So there are good and bad things. But for me, it's mostly good.

[NaeNae]

My scar says two things too

- This is the outward scar that can be seen, that reflects the deeper unhealed wound of losing my first born.
- This is the physical reminder that you put your childs life before your own vanity. My horrible scar was the last good thing I could do for her, having a vaginal birth would have killed her.

[Charlotte91]

I hope your scar says kinder things to you as time goes by.
I'll lighten it up a bit if you don't mind
My scar tells me I have a beautiful, healthy little girl in my life. It tells me that I am an amazing, strong women for going through a major surgery and making it through all the fear I had while lying in theater waiting. And it makes me even prouder of birthing my son vaginally because I did it against all the odds

I realize a lot of people will have quite raw, upsetting feelings about their scars so I hope I'm not being insensitive by being so positive.


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I'm hoping some people will be positive!! lol
I know there's so many who are proud, unfortunately I'm not one of them.

You're not insensitive at all, honey.

[Shezabelle]

Mine says this is the way I got to meet my 3 beautiful children.
It was calm relaxed and absolutely magical. Nothing but positive. Charlotte I too really hope your scar says nicer things in the future xo

[KitFaerie]

Hmmm, mine says 2 things, that my son is incredibly loved, and thank goodness it didn't backfire.

[Aussiegirl777]

My scar says "Love was inside of me and this is what we had to do to share that love with everyone around us".

[Heaven]

Mine says 'the day your life changed forever and you got the most precious gift in the world'

[kelsbels]

I am proud of my scar, it tells the world that I am a mother, that I have carried and birthed a child. I often admire my scar in the mirror and remember that amazing moment. I am blessed to have no negative feelings towards my c/s but my heart aches for those who do. I hope one day you will feel more at peace with it.

[ElleJay]

Mine says to me 'Even though you tried to birth naturally, you got your son out the safest possible way for the horrible situation you were in'

[indie24]

My c/s scar says to me... this is DD's entry portal to the world. It also says that not everyone has the same birth story. You do the best with what you have at the time.

[BeautifulMadness]

mine says

my boy was too impaitent to met us and remind of the feelings i had towards him and i feel like i need to make that up

[ElleJay]

N2L could you clarify please? I keep re reading but can't work out how I was meant to receive your statements. Hmmm. probably my fault.

I don't really feel proud of what I endured. I don't know what I feel, but it isn't pride. I feel kind of ashamed and violated. Precious moments with DS were lost forever, and that just sucks. Of course mine wasn't a routine delivery, so my emotions may differ from others. I hope one day I can be proud. I am however proud of the strength I found within myself to stay focussed on DS and my ability to retain my emotional health.

and lots more from me forshelby

Adding to mine :I still have the 'I can't birth my child/ren naturally and that sucks and I feel like I've failed' moments, but know I can't blame myself because I needed my c-section which saved my sons life (and mine in a sense) and will be having an elective c-section for this bubba because, again, I can not medically give birth naturally.. But now I know what goes on when having a c-section, I'll feel better bout it

[Purple Penguin]

for everyone! Forshelby, lots of for you, you have every right to feel however you like and no one can tell you that you shouldn't.

I have been reading through these since the thread started and working out what my scars say. I too feel like I failed, somedays are worse that others.

The first scar says 'you tried but the interference of intervention spiralled and you failed'

The second one says 'you were to scared to try again.'

but in saying that, they both also say that I have two happy healthy girls brought into the world the best way I knew how.

[Just Me]

for everyone! Forshelby, lots of for you, you have every right to feel however you like and no one can tell you that you shouldn't.

I have been reading through these since the thread started and working out what my scars say. I too feel like I failed, somedays are worse that others.

The first scar says 'you tried but the interference of intervention spiralled and you failed'

The second one says 'you were to scared to try again.'

but in saying that, they both also say that I have two happy healthy girls brought into the world the best way I knew how.

PP.