I think we often interpret other people's birth experiences & choices through our own birthing experience, to a point of not seeing that all experiences and choices are valid. I've read a lot lately about how the experience pales in comparison to the result, and in the scheme of things, of course it does, but that doesn't mean that the experience is not important or significant, and that a birthing woman's needs, desires and choices shouldn't be respected.
You've nailed it in that one paragraph.

Too many people judge a person's birthing experience and choices based on what they believe for themselves to be "right".

If people want an elective c-section, home birth, free birth, birth centre, labour ward, medicated, unmedicated - go for it, just know the risks and take responsibility if there are consequences.

NO ONE has the right to judge......it's that judgment that puts unnecessary stress and pressure on a person to feel as though they've "failed".....bloody ridiculous if you ask me. There is already enough pressure on a new mum these days without the added crap of birth guilt.

Now, I am NOT speaking of those who end up with unnecessary intervention.

In saying that, I am a firm believer that if you have a flexible, well thought out birth plan with all points covered, the guilt and worry if something does go wrong will be minimised.

Ensure that you have provisions in there like what happens if a c-section is needed or an epidural strongly suggested or transfer. Thinking of these scenarios mentally help to prepare you for the curve balls sometimes labour can throw at you. It also allows you to still make choices within the situation - and you'll be in better control.

Lastly, if something doesn't feel "right" take 5 minutes alone with your DP to talk it out and make the decision together (if it's feasible).

Sorry for the long rant - this is a bit close to home for me.