I haven't had to have a c/s, but I just wanted to say that having a repeat scheduled c/s after an emergency one can be a calmer experience because it's planned, there's no rush to get to theatre and you don't have the confusion of being in labour and being told, 'we have to get this baby out NOW!". Some members here who have had to have a c/s or repeat c/s have had beautiful and calm births and have put a lot of thought into planning their birth - skin to skin contact afterwards, BF in recovery and even maternal assisted c/s etc. There is no reason at all that you can't have a similar experience yourself. In no way am I advocating for c/s, but if that's what you choose to do you can still make it the best birth you can have kwim?