Thanks Chody, I remember doing similar but I think with DS1 it's gone beyond that point. He has made his own lunch since prep, he has a choice of sandwiches, wraps, salads, etc but he will only eat cheese sandwiches, will only take an apple and a yoghurt. He doesn't like kids yoghurt so we get the adult ones in a big tub, he is in control of how much he takes, which fruits (and we have a lot of options). But he has limited himself to just a few options and half the time he doesn't want to eat even them so he is left with nothing.