I need some serious help.

My DD is 11, is VERY hormonal. Obviously has the typical puberty behavior. Moodiness, back chatting, 'hard done by' attitude & whining about being asked to do anything. Sometimes a simple 'go to bed' ends up being a half hr argument between us. Listening. Pfft - she CONSTANTLY mishears thing we say or even simple instructions, or has selective hearing turned right on. Which naturally ends up in an argument. Last Friday night we had a big argument & I removed her laptop, tv & iPad from her room. She still doesn't have those back & isnt allowed to use them. This is obviously not enforced any form of 'punishment' as there have been incidents almost every night this week.

Up until recently, I've been able to talk with her, explain what she was doing wrong, the consequences of her actions for her & those surrounding her. She is a good kid. I don't want her to start going off the rails like I did.

My fuse is very short these days, I am so sick & tired of the attitude. I am pregnant & hormonal myself. I know she doesn't really understand what's happening to her, so I try to be as patient as I can. Some days are better than others.

I'd like to try and find some sort of tips/advice/info on how I can deal with this is a gentle way. I really am hating the way I am becoming with her, we've always had good communication .... Lately is a different story ....

TIA.