Bubno3, with respect I would not call that gentle parenting, or even tough love. To me it sounds like you are enforcing your power hierarchy on your DS, who is objecting to being treated like a small child, cruelly imitated when he wants things and being expected to take on some more adult chores at the same time.

Fwiw, I expect my boys to do their share, but we negotiate it and if DS is going on and on about wanting something, we negotiate how to get it (usually rewarding approprite behavior). If the boys don't help cook when I ask, I just do myself some food. If they don't clean, the mess is there tomorrow. If I don't get peace, I treat myself to an hour's time-out with a book. Maybe not ideal, but maybe more age-appropriate.