I really don't want them to spend the holidays in their rooms but...
My two eldest kids are driving me craaaaazy!!! DS and DD1 are nearly 9 and nearly 7 and they are constantly at each others throats. I mean constantly, they argue, they scream, they are mean (Go away you stupid big mean boy etc), the fight over toys, over tv programs, over one kicking or irritating the other. Even over one looking at the other the "wrong" way.
I'm over it. At least now I have peace during the day but in the holidays I don't know what to do it's worse when they're bored but I can't fill every moment of the school hols.
Does anyone have any advice on coping stratgies or anything that can help them get along better?
I'm at the point now where it's zero tolerence. As soon as there is shouting or arguing they both go to their rooms, but I feel so mean
I hate yelling at them but sometimes they don't even hear me they're so busy yelling at each other!
Any advice (or offers to have my kids for the next 8 weeks) would be very welcome!
When I used to work in a day care centre, my dad suggested that we cover all the walls in velcro and put them in fluffy clothes and stick the kids to it.
Other than that I'm sorry but I have no advice. Just wanted to offer you some big 's. It can't be easy, but I'm sure you'll get through it and do the best job you possibly can.
ok set up a roster.
ds gets control over choice of games activity etc from 10-12 say then from 1-3 DD chooses, between 12-1 its what mum says and lunch time so sit down and eat, make it fun lunch even fruit sticks and sandwhiches cut into cool shapes etc. DS loves this he is 9.
time before 10 is individual play so they can read or do whatever, but if arguing occurs they loose their privilage to choose an activity.
after 3 is settle down time, afternoon snack, and outside time. its amazing what you can get them to do and just remind them if they argue they loose the privilage of choosing an activity.
if it makes it easier for you give them a choice of 3 or 4 things you can all do and then let them choose one.
i do this with DS i give him 3 options and he chooses, they could be, go to the pool, go for a ride or play down teh park with the footy etc. his choice then i remind him we all do it as a family but your leading the activity.. he likes the idea of being the leader.
then i say ok DD's choice now she is only 2 but will choose something given the option and i get DS to play with us as a family and he has to follow.
teaches them both respect, leadership adn that it isnt always your way compramise is key in life..
and a good bottle of red at the end of teh night helps as well.
oh adn cooking, DS would cook all day if he got to decorate the cake and eat the icing lol
I really don't want them to spend the holidays in their rooms but...
it's worse when they're bored but I can't fill every moment of the school hols.
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's. It can't be easy, but I'm sure you'll get through it and do the best job you possibly can. 
. That's what I'm doing and I'm dreading the holidays too....
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