Misbehaving Son Almost 4y/o

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Ok wasnt sure where to put this (mods please move if needed) I just noticed it said newborn to 5 y/o....

Ok, My son is 3 y 9 months old. He's Totally uncontrollable. He's been an only child up until 3 months ago when our baby girl arrived and i thought things would get better but they havent.

He's constantly getting in to mischief, doing things he knows he shouldnt, yelling at us like were the children, not listening, and wow i could just go on all day. DP and i have tried evertyhing we can think of, Time out, talking to him about what he has done explaining the rules etc, sticker rewards when he's good, although i dont like it i have resorted to spanking at times, taking away toys, bribing the list is endless. DP and i have just worn out all options that we can think of. How do you get a child to behave when nothing seems to work.

Back ground:- DS had issues with his ears- not hearing but they would fill with wax and affect his range of hearing... We thought it was selective as he's respond to the usual.. Want a lollie...etc. but when talking it was like he's ignore us. We had that sorted out he has grommets tonsila and adnoids done. (he wasnt sleeping due to snoring etc...) He was having speach issues as a result of not being able to hear correctly and We thought things would improve when his speach did but he's just acting up more and more everyday... I have changed his diet as i noticed certain foods would make him more well overactive. we have noticed a small improvement but he's just so uncontrollable at times.

Dp and i are lost and losing patients very quickly... I'm struggling to cope with the 2... Any suggestions would be great... Thanks in advance