We are at a total loss of how to handle this

[Astrid]

Went through all the tummy pain stuff with DD1 (linking my thread about it: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...in-6yo-166351/)

It does seem to be mostly anxiety related and certainly seemed to diminish after she had blood test (DH refused to let her have emla gel to numb the area). I assume she was put off by the "bad" attention of the needles. There has been a lot of improvement this year, as she has really settle quite well into school. Even though the teachers say they are fine and have friends, they see it differently themselves. DD1 had to learn that "I don't want to play that game" did not mean "I don't want to be friends with you". She is also a perfectionist, so can get stressed if she does not know, or thinks she may not know it 100%. Thankfully her teacher has picked that up and is working with her on it.

I would suggest getting what tests you can, just in case there is something going on medically. Also work with his teacher as to what is going on, keep talking to them about how he is going at home and ask them about how he is going at school.

Best of luck - it is a tough situation

[Jakabella]

I would think it would be anxiety related. Maybe a stalling tactic so that you might keep him home??

I would still take him to the Pead just incase there is some underlying issue.

Does he suffer IBS? I know that when Im in times of high stress that I get an IBS attack but not the poo (sorry TMI) but I get the pains. Just a thought.

[HotI]

Have you asked him what he thinks will help? it might help you work out what is happening (if it is anxiety driven)

[Ambersky]

We get the Tummy pains thing from 5yo DD1 on a daily basis at the moment, after initial concern, i now say "oh dear.. lets get on with ..... and see if it goes away" i noticed it happens more often if she knows DD2 and i are doing something while she will be at school, or bed times about 2 nights out of 5. After a few days of my almost non reaction it happens much less often. I try and make plans for a special her and me time the next weekend time if I'm aware she thinks she is missing out during the week.

[Arimeh]

Have you asked him what he thinks will help? it might help you work out what is happening (if it is anxiety driven)

He wants medicine, or to see a doctor. But we've taken him to two different doctors, both of them said nothing is wrong, its attention driven, and one mentioned migraines.

Which is funny - because I'm a migraine sufferer......

I just read through your thread Astrid, how is your DD1 now? It seems like the same sort of thing here I can definitely see how he would link the "I don't want to play that game" as being "I don't want to be friends with you".

LMS - I don't think he is being bullied, the kids do seem genuinely excited when they see him turn up every morning, and when he was in daycare last year, he used to be mobbed by the girls when he arrived - we used to call him the rock star.. LOL

[Astrid]

I just read through your thread Astrid, how is your DD1 now? It seems like the same sort of thing here I can definitely see how he would link the "I don't want to play that game" as being "I don't want to be friends with you".

She is so much better now. Still the odd tummy ache and complaints of sloppy poos, but nothing like she was. On her bad days I would always talk to the teacher in the morning and then she would give me feedback in the afternoon. We found a pattern of her having tummy aches when doing something new. Once she knew the routine, the rules and how things worked in general, she really improved (something I completely understand). She does have a lot of friends and they say she quite popular (even back in kinder apparently). I wonder if being popular maybe has its own issues??

We did get her a heat pack to use with her tummy aches on the suggestion of the paed (to do with giving her control over it), but sadly she hated the smell of it.

[Arimeh]

Kateo - I don't work, but I have a 3.5 year old, 2 year old and nearly 1 year old - so I can't really help out, and we can't afford day care because my DH is studying and I'm a SAHM. I will start asking more questions though, thanks.

Astrid - he has a heat pack, a cow, but it doesn't seem to make a difference, as soon as it hits his skin, he wails that its hurting him. Maybe I could take him shopping to buy one that he picks out.....?

M - DH played on the wii with him this afternoon for most of the afternoon, and it still didn't make a difference cos he had to stop playing to go to bed - enter the tantrum, wailing monster!