Kateo - I don't work, but I have a 3.5 year old, 2 year old and nearly 1 year old - so I can't really help out, and we can't afford day care because my DH is studying and I'm a SAHM. I will start asking more questions though, thanks.

Astrid - he has a heat pack, a cow, but it doesn't seem to make a difference, as soon as it hits his skin, he wails that its hurting him. Maybe I could take him shopping to buy one that he picks out.....?

M - DH played on the wii with him this afternoon for most of the afternoon, and it still didn't make a difference cos he had to stop playing to go to bed - enter the tantrum, wailing monster!