Oh the poor girl, if these things started so early how can Dr's put it down to her being a normal teenager?
I know she wouldn't speak to the therapist but are there any other tests they can do about behavioral functionality? Could it be something like ADHD or whatever it's called now?
I hope things sort themselves out for her, seems like she is also at her wits end and knows it's not always within her control...
Good luck i hope you and your family get the help you need for her.
Wow. I don't want to be out of line here or anything. But there is a definate reason for this behaviour, and underlying issue. Kids/teenagers don't just act out like this for no reason kwim? I hate to ask but has there ever been any kinds of abuse? Or someone she was extremely close to die or something like that? Or does she have issues with your mum's partner? Thats where your mum needs to start I think. Finding out what the underlying problem is, because this just goes way beyond a kid just "acting up" kwim?
Oh, not necesarrily KL. I was a rotten teenager and had everything I would ever need in the world.
Just had a huge sense of entitlement, large ego and wanted to do whatever I felt like.
I agree with LuLu, it doesn't have to stem from abuse etc.
I was abused as a child and i turned out ok and NEVER went through that rebellion stage, i know it does happen but if she skipped her first day of school in grade 3 i think it's more likely a behavioral issue.
I def think it's something she feels she can't control and i hope theres nothing sinister behind it but i think it's something else.
Thanks for all your responses, KL is definately not abuse, and not mums partner. This behaviour was happening even when mum and her father were still together (my three sisters have a different father to me) ... ive always thought she was ADD or something, i just dont know.
Mums working so am yet to speak with her about "Tough Love"
Firstly I would just like to say that your little sister is so lucky to have a big sister like you. I really feel for your mum she must be going through hell. I would be going from Dr to Dr until I found one that listened to me, this is definately not just a teenager misbehaving. There could be an underlying medical condition as in HDD or something similar. I really think the important part is that she recongnises her behaviour ie. when she tells your mum she doesn't know why she does the things she does, that is a big key in the picture. Here in Vic we have many programmes who work with troubled youths, maybe you could ring your local council see if they could provide you with some names. I really wish you and your family all the very best.
Lucy in the sky with diamonds.
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