Oh, not necesarrily KL. I was a rotten teenager and had everything I would ever need in the world.
Just had a huge sense of entitlement, large ego and wanted to do whatever I felt like.
I agree with LuLu, it doesn't have to stem from abuse etc.
I was abused as a child and i turned out ok and NEVER went through that rebellion stage, i know it does happen but if she skipped her first day of school in grade 3 i think it's more likely a behavioral issue.
I def think it's something she feels she can't control and i hope theres nothing sinister behind it but i think it's something else.
Thanks for all your responses, KL is definately not abuse, and not mums partner. This behaviour was happening even when mum and her father were still together (my three sisters have a different father to me) ... ive always thought she was ADD or something, i just dont know.
Mums working so am yet to speak with her about "Tough Love"
Firstly I would just like to say that your little sister is so lucky to have a big sister like you. I really feel for your mum she must be going through hell. I would be going from Dr to Dr until I found one that listened to me, this is definately not just a teenager misbehaving. There could be an underlying medical condition as in HDD or something similar. I really think the important part is that she recongnises her behaviour ie. when she tells your mum she doesn't know why she does the things she does, that is a big key in the picture. Here in Vic we have many programmes who work with troubled youths, maybe you could ring your local council see if they could provide you with some names. I really wish you and your family all the very best.
Thanks Dianne! Its so frustrating for me (and i cant imagine how mum is feeling) that no one will listen to her, that everyone palms it off as typical teenage behaviour...i will definately let mum know to check with her local council!!
Im so glad i can post on here and ask these types of questions, i would never have come across some of the places you lovely ladies have suggested...thanks so much!!
I just wanted to add that there is so much hope for your sister, a close friend of mine is a youth worker and works with troubled teens. She has often told me stories of some of her kids and the turnaround is really amazing. Keep your chin up.
i know there is hope for her, she is a very athletic girl, good at any sport she does, i beleive in her, its her that doesnt beleive in her ... very sad. I honestly think she just gets herself in too deep and shes too proud to back out...*sigh*
Does anyone think it would benefit her coming to live with me & DP? Mum says shed just go back to hers as soon as the going got tough, and i worry as i live on the Gold Coast the trouble she COULD get in up here would be far worse then down there but i just want to give her a fresh start...
Lucy in the sky with diamonds.
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