Oh, i so understand yeh not a super start but hey if it honestly just boils down to the miscommuniation between the carer & the scheme & that she the carer has acknowledged this to you at least she is upfront & honest about it & is comfortable to discuss this with you (it's great she offered for you to deal with her mostly then the scheme in future) ... & she is clearly still interested in caring for your little one, so maybe she is still worth giving a go ... Sounds like her end in dealing with the scheme is frustrating for her too & in having said that this situation which sounds like might not be her fault shouldn't have to reflect how she as a carer works (IYKWIM) !!

It's possible with all your build of emotions didn't help with the todays outcome & for that the day 'might' feel worse (??)

Maybe if you look at it from her side of the fence you will feel better with your decision in what to do

Sometimes starts like this are not always for the worst, ... Fingers crossed for you, hope ALL works out with what you decide to do !!