oooh yeah! tough situation! I've BTDT with my princess too.....
DS always took to daycare well and so did she, until we moved and she went into a centre rather than FDC. That's when our dramas began.
I agree with Mollycat, leave her, a quick goodbye, kiss and I love you and then hide around the corner if you can. This was the only thing that made me feel better about leaving her sobbing. Once I saw that she got over it in a couple of minutes I knew she was just being a drama queen. Not just that but I think they also genuinely think they are gonna be left behind, which is natural but when you do leave them and you DO come back, they feel so reassured you will always come back.
I've worked in centres too and I have never seen a child go the distance on sobbing until Mum/Dad arrives I know it's heartbreaking, I really do. And I used to sob once I'd left. It will get better.
i have seen a girl cry from moment of drop off to moment of pick up! very distressing! but that is extreme and you definately would be told about it if that were to happen, in which case i would definatley take her out of care for a while til she was older. so heartbreaking and i was just working there!
Hi honey, firstly to you,
It is a hard situation and you are on the right track I have worked in long day care for nearly 13 years and I know that most children take a couple of weeks to settle in to a new environment, and as hard as it is it is easier for your child to settle when they know that mum is confident and happy that they will be fine and leave with a "mummy loves you and you will have a great, fun day and I will see you soon"
you may have tears for the initial few seperations(for both of you) talk with your carers and I can promise that the tears will not last all day and the more times you attend and stay positive and confident the easier it will get, If your carers are like me (and I hope they will be) they would call you and honestly let you know if your child could benefit from being picked up a little earlier or isn't coping as well on a particular day and we also encourage parents to call as many time as they want through the course of the day so you can feel confident that your child is happy.
good luck sweets and ulimately follow your heart
I know it's heartbreaking, I really do. And I used to sob once I'd left. It will get better.
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