Firstly dont feel bad for wanting some 'me time'. Its not just about that its about providing you the opportunity to have quality time with your children when you are with them and if you need to pop your head out of the water every now and then, then that is OK.
Coming from a Children's Service background i am a great advocate for cc. we take children at a much younger age than you are suggesting, and they survive!! (believe it or not)
I am also a child who spend all of my life in FDC( family Day care) and loved it.
We have parents that are using the service for many reasons and some are simular to your situation, i am aware of there's due to my position and that i need to provide care and education to the parents too, im not just around for the children but the whole family network, and this is how the gov are wanting it to develop with the introduction of the blueprint and hubs(another long post).
It is important that you find the right service for you.speak with you MCH for information on services. Its no ones business why you are wanting to use CC so if anyone has any smart remarks tell them to see me. lol
CC in balance has so many benefits...........i could go on and on.
you just need to find the right one for you and your children.
GL and PM me if you have a Q. i could recommend some great services
Darl, I know you're a great mum and sometimes, you know, you just have to be a little bit selfish and put yourself higher up the list.
In an ideal world, I think 12 months is a little young but this ain't an ideal world and you need to be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself and recharging your batteries is absolutely the BEST thing you can do under the circumstances.
I know that I need to recharge my batteries and I have only one child and I have a partner ... so absolutely go for it. You'll feel so much more refreshed. I know how much better I feel after a bit of 'me' time. It's really essential for everyone.
And don't let XH make you feel bad. He was hardly Father Of The Year (sorry to be blunt) and didn't seem like he helped out much so I think he lacks credibility on this.
It is far far better for your child that you are on top of your own mental health and emotional wellbeing. If that means a day in daycare, well, that is better than his mum falling apart because she never gets a break. I'm not necessarily suggesting that you would fall apart, but that it is going to be more beneficial to him that you are at your best.
Look after yourself, and be confident that you know what is best for you and your child.
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