Darl, I know you're a great mum and sometimes, you know, you just have to be a little bit selfish and put yourself higher up the list.

In an ideal world, I think 12 months is a little young but this ain't an ideal world and you need to be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself and recharging your batteries is absolutely the BEST thing you can do under the circumstances.

I know that I need to recharge my batteries and I have only one child and I have a partner ... so absolutely go for it. You'll feel so much more refreshed. I know how much better I feel after a bit of 'me' time. It's really essential for everyone.

And don't let XH make you feel bad. He was hardly Father Of The Year (sorry to be blunt) and didn't seem like he helped out much so I think he lacks credibility on this.