Hey. When we had Jazmyne I didn't mind people calling her Jaz, but DH hated it. We named her Jazmyne not Jaz! So anyway, I can't call her Jaz coz it feel wierd for me. Everyone else does, & we don't mind anymore.
Mind you though I hated the nickname Bri - Brianna - but I was the first one to start calling her that at 4 months old. We very rarely say Brianna now.
Maybe you could just ask them to call her Annika & tell shem she's been getting confused at home?
I agree, its not what you named her and if your not happy with the nic name (even if she ends up being called that later in life) then say something.
Just pull aside one of the staff who you know will listen and will make sure the message gets passed on, that you have noticed your daughter being called 'ani' and that its not what you call her. Tell them you dont shorten her name and no one outside of preschool does, she always goes by her full name.
If you notice in a week or so her still being called 'ani', then make a complaint of it to the manager.
Just tell them you would prefer that she was not called Annie as it is not her name. And if you hear anyone say it then correct them. Don't worry when she's old enough you can teach her to correct people herself and in no time she'll set them straight
Ditto to what everyone else has said. If you wish people to call her by her full name, politely correct them. Personally, i always make a point of calling my friends children by their full first name - even more so if their parents do! I have even been known to correct my husband when he shortens a name down!
when you filled out forms did it have name and preferred name like when you fill out job applications and school stuff
but yeah bring it up that her name is annika not annie,
I copped a lot of flack as a child I wouldn't answer anyone if they called me rach just flat out ignored them they got the message quick smart now I use rach alll the time
We call Genevieve, Vievey for short but childcare was calling her Jenny (which I hate) so we just told them that we call her Vievey at home for short and that it would be great if they could keep it consistent. They were fine with that and call her Vievey now.
Bit of a tough one as it may not be the carers who started to use the shortened name but the other children. At DD1's old childcare there was a little girl called Audrey, for some reason DD called her Audries. In the end everyone, even the girls own mother called her Audries So bring it up in a nice way.
i don't think it's petty at all. i agree with the others that you should just politely correct them or have a quiet word to anyone who has been calling her annie & let them know that you would prefer that people call her by her full name.
I know what you mean. My sons Benjamin and Nicholas get Ben and Nic all the time. Now we did expect it but I do correct people when they automatically shorten their names -- I know when they are older they will be shortened but I would like them to use the names we chose for them as long as they can
So I would do as everyone has suggested and just ask politely for people to call her by her given name!
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I would just tell them you don't shorten her name and can they call her Annika. I've had parents tell me the same thing as a child care room leader and I've made sure all the other staff knew. Personally I always ask if parent's use a shortened name before I use it myself.
i have tried being nice but it only gets you so far and then the teachers/career has ended going back to what they think is best. grrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
I tell the teachers/career that my child's name is eg Wilhelm not Will and I WANT you to call him by his name not to what you think he should be called. It is who he is and later in life HE can choose his nickname...so right now we call him by his NAME
its a bit harsh but it gets the message across and its worked for us.
I find it so frustrating when people think their being 'cute' when they are so obviously being annoying!
If all else fails miss say their name and see what they think when you ignore them
I would be telling her "teacher" that you do not want her name shortened and they are to use her proper first name. If you feel you need to explain yourself - tell them she is getting confused with her name. My sister is Elizabeth and always has used her full name, we wouldn't think of shortening it, although other brothers and sisters have shortened versions of their names. My eldest is Robert - and his name only gets shortened when he goes camping with the boys (and that's only been the last twelve months - he's now 16 - gets called Bertie - which coincidentally was my grandfathers name) - my youngest (11) is alexander - and we do shorten that one - he sometimes gets Alex or Zandy or Zander. I have had words with his teacher who referred to him by his surname in my hearing. I was not impressed.
Anyway back to you. I would talk to the teachers and if that doesn't work go to the Centre Director.
My poor cousin hated the thought of shortened names so she called her three boys single syllable names eg Blake .......... who then got called Blakely or Blakey You can't win.
But seriously, gently remind them of her name and ask that they please call her by it to prevent confusion
My DS is often called by a nick-name that I dislike. I don't dislike it for other people, just for him. To me, just his first name is short enough: he has three names and I often use all three, so shortening it to one name is enough, one syllable too much.
So I tell people "actually, his name's Liebling, not Lee" (as an example, that's a nickname too - along with Smudgemeister, Kleiner Mann, Little Man et cetera). I also have made sure that he doesn't answer to "Lee"! At home in his first year I'd call him "Lieblingy-blingy-blingy-bling" (that sounds awful but ykwim) and he won't answer to "Lee" now! His childcare were fine with it and don't shorten it. My parents and sister still do and I just stay slient until they add the "bling" bit! DS won't reply to them either.
When he gets older, if he wants to be "Lee" - or go by a middle name - that's fine. It's his choice. But I gave him the name, it's up to him what he does with it, not anyone else. And I want him to love his name and not think all his names together is his naughty name!
We had the issue with Alexzander as well, he is Alexzander or Zander, not Alex EVER. My FIL was the worst for it & every time he said it when I was around I finished for him, even if it meant interrupting in the middle of a sentence.
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how do i tell them to stop shortning her name??
You can't win.
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