I hate this!

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4 weeks ago my baby man started pre school/day care.

He's a real shocking mummies boy & has some pretty serious seperation issues. He'll go out to mum & dad's place fine now & stay a weekend, but he won't stay at his best little mates house without me for 20 minutes, even though he has spent day after day there with me.

I was thinking about starting him back when he first turned 2, but finding out about DD3 took a while to get used to & I just had too much on.
I decided I better start him now, to start the seperation very slowly before he goes to school in 2 years.

Day 1, go in, look around, leave him for about an hour (with his permission), then come back to him just waiting to burst into tears
Day 2, stay with him for about 1.5 hours, then we both leave.
Day 3, arrange to have 'Mr Pat' take him to do boys stuff (he's a real boys boy), but we are away for a funeral so miss out.

Day 4, Friday just gone (Fridays, weekly).
We get to the door, I ask if Mr Pats around. No.
Lady in charge comes over to DS (knows I'm stressed about it all), says its ok, it'll be ok.
Picks him up, he starts screaming, tells me to go...
I watch her carry him away screaming for me, promise him I'll be back & turn my back on him

I was in tears going through the gate. Balling my eyes out for ages.
I pulled out, went through 2 sets of lights & they rang me at the third set (5 minutes) he'd stopped crying... I was still sobbing like a baby! (Cried for about 20 minutes before I pulled myself together!)

He was ok, just kinda stood back & watched, no melt downs. They let him do as he pleased to make it easier on him.

I picked him up & he lost it with me Telling me I was naughty & that he wanted to come to the shops
He did pep up a tad before we left, his teacher got him giggling a bit.

One photo they showed me I could see the 'about to burst into tears face' (can be seen in my FB photo's of his first day).

He talks about it, but won't admit that he had an ok time.

Do I keep forcing him like this? I dunno if he can handle it, but I certainly can't!
Neither of my older girls were like this. It was different with them. They were happy to go...

But he does need to start getting ready for school. I know its 2 years away, but I really think he needs to start trusting other people now.

What would you guys do???

I'd happily keep him home with me forever & ever...