Not to jump to conclusions.... But if it is, do you think there could be a carer there they don't like?
Reason I say is my boys went to a DC/preschool and LOVED it. Every day was "Is it a preschool day?" We use to spend heaps of time there just because they liked it so much. Then we moved away, 1 started big school & The younger started at the little mobile preschool close to home. But then as big school approached for him I started taking him back down the the original place as they had a proper "pre" school programme in place. He HATED it. He was good to start with but by a month or so into it it was a fight to get him out of the car to go in.
When I asked him why he didn't want to go, It was the new director he didn't like. All the other carers where the same as before. But the original owner had come back & taken an active role in the centre & it was her that he didn't like. She was over bearing, in his face "grandma, pinch your cheeks" over the top. So I stopped taking him there. We returned to the mobile preschool where funny enough the director was the old director of the original preschool. He was happy, enjoyed his last term before big school & that was that.
So I just wonder, seems your DD got weird in the last 6 months of her stay there, Maybe there is "new" person there that's just too in their face & they don't like?
DS is a big mummy's and daddy's boy. Last year at 2 1/2 he started daycare 1 day a week in preparation for school and to give me a "day off" He hated it. Cried the night before and that morning, was fine there , and would cry when I picked him up. So after 4 months I gave up.
He has just started school and has amazed me. Runs in, says "Bye mum" and off he goes. Loves it.
HTH
FJ - DD2 went to 2 different ones. I'm pretty sure her oppinion of it all changed around the same time she got really sick with tonsillitis & glandular fever.
She had about 2 weeks off to recover & never really wanted to go back again.
DS does go to the same one. I actually thought it'd be better going to the one she went to, since he'd been there & played already.
They are talking about opening one up here at the school of some sort, so I'm supporting that 100%! I really think going to the girls school will make all the difference.
Lets just hope it happens!
From a carer's perspective, do you think your DS thinks that you are going off shopping and having fun without him, ie, he is missing out on something, I remind my kids here that mums/dads are either off to work or off doing jobs and as soon as they are finished they will be back.
Maybe a photo book, showing you doing something mundane like making beds, eating morning tea, cleaning the floor, which matches up with something that DS will be doing at the same time, playing in sandpit, eating morning tea, puzzles, storytime, blocks, etc that the carers at pre-school can show him, or a time line type of pictures; playing inside, outside, morning tea, craft, playing, lunch, rest time then mum comes for pick up, just so he knows what happens next, may make him feel more secure.
For some children it does take 6-8 weeks to settle in, I have a little girl here this is week 6, came in this morning with smiles instead of tears, Mum actually cried (happy tears) on her way to work because her DD was happy to stay. As long as your carers are supporting your DS and will phone you to collect if he is distressed, I would leave him a few more weeks just to see if he will settle. If not, maybe take him out for now and start him in another 6 months time.
He went again today. Again he wasn't happy. Pulled u=in the driveway with him crying. Got him out just for hugs & he said he didn't want to get his bag out, coz he knew that'd mean he was staying.
I left the bag & took him in crying.
No phone call. Picked him up about 3 hours later, & while he cried when I got there, he didn't cry at all through the day!
They are taking it very easy on him, but I think we are doing ok...
How many days a week is he going?
Maybe he would be better doing 2 succesive 1/2 days rather than 1 full one.
Many many kids are dodgy on their first day of daycare for the week and are fine on extra days.
I know mine is
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